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I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year but every time he drinks or smokes, I break up with him. He broke promises to me 3 times about not smoking and after the 4th promise he did stop. He hasn’t smoked since but recently he went to a party and he drank and I found out. It made me not be with him but now he keeps begging me to get back together and promising that he won’t do it anymore. He feels really bad but I think I lost the feelings I had for him. What should I do?

The BOM Ambassadors say

Could the issue be that you feel disrespected because he’s not listening to you? Think about what the real issue is, what bothers you more, that he’s occasionally drinking and smoking or that he’s not respecting your wishes? Then let him know how you feel. It can be hard to break habits, and it seems like he understands how important this is to you and he’s trying to adjust his lifestyle but if you don’t want to be with someone who 1) breaks promises and 2) doesn’t share your values about substance use, then it’s important for you to be true to yourself. Never lower your standards for anyone.
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No… once a smoker/drinker, always a smoker/drinker… At least while you’re a teenager

no once a smoker/drinker/cheater always one. Unless they prove before you date again then no. Nvr give out trust they have to earn it.

three times of making the same mistake weren’t enough for you?

Give him One more try.

let him do what he wants bf gf relationship is not a husband wife relationship

no you can’t, if he really wanted to change for you itd be done, but also you can’t expect him to change because if you love someone you love them for everything about them

who cares

not really because he going to do it behind your back.

no. Once a drinker always adrinker

be honest w/yourself…If you’ve already had to break up with 3x do you really think the 4th time around things are gonna be diff…Stop settling!

If this has happened 3 times then no u cant trust him. He obviously knows how u feel yet he keeps doing what he’s doing. So he isnt worth the trouble

No if he already done it in the past he will likely do it again. Just move on.

Old habits are hard to break so let somethingp slide if you truely love each other things will work out

if u think tht he loves u and u want to trust him take tht chance

i doubt it cus he did it 3 times n hell do it again n again

NO u can not

don’t think so. One chance should have been enough. Obviously he doesn’t value your trust.

Nope

probably not

No get him in rehab. Trust the changes you see, not the ones you don’t!

don’t try to change no man. No you can’t trust him* he broke it and he will do it again.!

if you already met him like that then so be it you can’t change a person. As long as he doesn’t do it very often let it be just let him inform you about it. I’m not saying its okay cause really it isn’t but you just can’t change him and he’ll see you are trying to be understanding and he’ll try to do his best to keep you happy and maybe stop

be okay with it. at least he isnt a total pothead

The BOM Ambassadors say

Sounds like one from the concern of the question

if you’ve already talk to him about and he refuses to change maybe its time to move on…You gotta decide if thats something your willing to deal w/or not

tell homeboy to stop or you don’t give him none!:P

The BOM Ambassadors say

Foreal!! You do not have to put up with that!!!

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