friends with benefits

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I've known this guy for a while and we hang out a lot. He already met my parents and I met his family. The one problem is, I'm not his girlfriend and he can't decide whether to ask me out or get back with his ex-girlfriend. We've been doing the "friends with benefits" thing for a month and I told him to decide by the end of 2009. I'm in love with him so what should I do? My friends already talked to him and told him he needed to make a decision and he said his choice was neither. I told him I can't continue this and that whatever we were doing is over. I�m worried, what should I do move on or wait for him to decide? Should I ask him if he really wants to be with me? Help please!

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Make sure that you aren�t using sex just to keep him around until he is willing to commit to you. Since he isn�t willing to commit to you right now, you can weigh out your options too. You can be keeping your options open while you wait, and still keep him as an option. You might even find someone better! If having the girlfriend/boyfriend title is important to you, he may not be what you�re looking for right now. You deserve to be with somebody who is on the same page you are.

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what? You r friend with benefits. You r not his gf, don’t expect anything. Expect nothing. Move the hell on

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this is the friend you care about. the friend you cared so much about that you wanted to be more than friends. don't move on you guys are still friends. what does that say about you character?

Wait if you have deep feelings for him. Or move on if it wont effect you.

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Friends!!!!!!!!

Move on

Just talk to him and see wht u guys are. Then decide

move on. If hes juz friend wit benefits then he usin u for the the phyiscal stuff.

what a jerk! Cant make a comitment lose him! It may be hard at 1st but its the rite thing to do

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it seems as if he is just as confused as she is maybe he dont want to rush

i really think you should move on i had the same problem .

move on hun hes just usin you

If he can’t decide on the spot move on

if you’re friends with benefits then he just thinks that’s all you are…talk to him and tell him what you want to be

If you really like him wait.

if you want more from the relationship and he wont commit then you should leave him behind and move on.

I seriously think you should move on. Most guys don’t fall for you past the sex part. So to spare your heart you would be so much smarter to move on. And if he really wants you as more, he’ll totally make that change once he realizes he wants more.

Wait you’ve waited this long why can’t you wait a little longer.

move on unless your comfortable w/being a “friend w/benefits” which in some cases is just fine but its up to you

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If you see yourself in that light you'll stay there. be want you want to be

You should wait.

yew should so move on because all he wants is to keep yew around for the benefits nd thats why he cant ‘‘decide’’

y dont u just ask her or him out

You should move on because he is just using you. And if he cant decide then he doesnt like you.

Wait

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Don't give up on your friends. What changes in the relationship?? Bottom line that is still your friend so you should still be a good friend. Just because thing isn't going your way doesn't mean end the friendship.

i have to answers for that question.i think u should wait because if u really like him and u really want it to happen u should wait if he,s been showing that he likes u u should wait because u never know when he will ask u to be his girlfriend and if he,s tould u how he feels and u tould him how u feel then i think that he,s going to ask u when the time is right.if hes been sending hints and little things like then u should wait because u never know if hes been wating for the right time to ask u so yes i think u should wait and thats why i think u should wait from

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Dont' be in rush to become bf gfs as long as the connection is there. Maybe he is trying to make since of it all not willing to rush. Relax.. It sounds like he really likes you

move on if he cnt decide then he doesnt really care

move on if they can’t decide what they want why be with them?.

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Because you've been with them.

yes move on gurl!

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Don't be in such a hurry to move on. You don't want to lose a friend in the process

I think u should move on he is not being serious with u

i dont think u should wait because if hes been pretending that he likes u and then he doesnt just because of his friends or because of somethin else and if hes only like u to get what he wants then u should diffantley move on because if hes just playing games girl i would advise u to move on so thats why i think u should move on

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Meeting so who family doesnt seem like he is pretending

depends on wat u want. Move on if u want a relationship. Be careful cuz he doesnt kno wat he wants nd wen he finds out, it mite be dif. From wat u want.

I had the same issue with my former fwb’s now bf. We were friends for a yr b4 we messed around, were fwb’s for a yr, and now we’ve been together 7mons..I suggest you ask them to stop giving you the run around and tell you what it truly is they want. Sometimes things get in the way of starting a relationship that’s what happened my situatim and it might be the same with yours. For me it was worth the wait to be with my bf now and I <3 him

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If your relationship is as strong as it seems you shouldn't have trouble expressing yourself to him. Be comfortable with him. Remember you guys were friends before lovers