Is it ever okay to just repeatedly keep forgiving your partner, if there is constant unhealthy behavior going on? Like consistent cheating, no communication, or abuse?
The BOM Ambassadors Say...
Consistently forgiving the same person over and over again can get draining. Forgiving someone usually means you have gained clarity over whatever it was that caused an issue; and you feel able to move forward and let go. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you act like nothing ever happened, just that it feels like it is behind you. Sometimes when you continuously forgive someone, if it’s for the same thing, and so rather than putting it behind you, it’s like you are saying that the behavior is ok. If you try and talk with your partner about the consistent issue, you might be able to fix it and you might not. Talking with your partner is part of having a healthy relationship because communicating can solve a lot of problems. If you feel that the conversation didn’t help with the situation, then you may want to think about the future and if you feel like you want and can handle being with someone who continues to hurt you in any kind of way.
Consistently forgiving the same person over and over again can get draining. Forgiving someone usually means you have gained clarity over whatever it was that caused an issue; and you feel able to move forward and let go. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you act like nothing ever happened, just that it feels like it is behind you. Sometimes when you continuously forgive someone, if it’s for the same thing, and so rather than putting it behind you, it’s like you are saying that the behavior is ok. If you try and talk with your partner about the consistent issue, you might be able to fix it and you might not. Talking with your partner is part of having a healthy relationship because communicating can solve a lot of problems. If you feel that the conversation didn’t help with the situation, then you may want to think about the future and if you feel like you want and can handle being with someone who continues to hurt you in any kind of way.
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