<![CDATA[Boss Of Me - BOM411 - MyDrama Questions]]>Fri, 17 May 2013 18:29:21 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week ]]>Thu, 23 Aug 2012 20:32:29 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/08/mydrama-question-of-the-week20.htmlIf you cheated on your partner, what do you think in the best thing to do, and how do you go about doing what you choose to do?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

One thing to keep in mind about being in a committed relationship is that you are committed to that one person. Yes, accidents happen, but you could think about it as if you were on the other side and how would you want your partner to handle it. Honesty in a relationship is the key and it will help your relationship grow to a level you didn't even know it can go to. Be honest and tell your partner what you did and how you feel then prove to them that you only want to be committed to them and only them.
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Mon, 09 Jul 2012 22:34:49 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/07/mydrama-question-of-the-week19.htmlI just met this girl and she already wants to have sex. I’m down with it, but we don't have any condoms and I’m broke. What should I do?
The BOM Ambassadors Say...

If you don’t have any condoms one option is to take advantage of the resources in your community such as Planned Parenthood or other teen clinics. There are very high risks when having unprotected sex such as pregnancy, STDs, STIs, HIV or even AIDS and the risks can be higher when you both haven’t been tested. If you’re unsure about having unprotected sex, tell her your feelings and go get some condoms.



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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Thu, 07 Jun 2012 22:18:40 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/06/mydrama-question-of-the-week18.htmlMy cousin has a boyfriend who always hits her when they get into an argument, I would do something but I want her to be responsible and learn how to grow out of certain situations like this one. Should I interfere with their relationship or let her handle it?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

One suggestion is to explain to your cousin what the cycle of violence is and the different type of phases they have. Phase one is when the man experiences a buildup of tension, which is preoccupied by his own view of the world, he has an exaggerated sense of entitlement, avoids social and emotional circumstances, relies on others to meet his every need, blames others and circumstances, is full of righteous indignation with beliefs about how the world should, ought and must be, engages in self intoxicating thoughts and beliefs.

Phase two is the most dangerous stage and can involve criminal assault, terrorizing, verbal abuse, serious threats and property damage. The man feels enraged and believes he is out of control; the episode can be brief or escalate over hours. Most men describe this stage as being out of his control; however, the violence is often in a context that has strong elements of choice and control. When the abusive and/or violent episode is closely examined the man is likely to recognize that it takes place usually within the home and has in fact been controlled, evidenced sometimes, by the parts of his partner’s body that he targets.

Last but not least, there is phase three which is when the man believes and tries to persuade his partner that the abuse will never happen again. He may blame his partner for his abusive behavior. He will often make promises about change that are conditional on his partners change, and promises of change that are unlikely to be carried out. The man may attempt to seek forgiveness from his partner and to offer explanations, e.g. ‘I lost control and did not know what I was doing’ that demonstrate he is not accepting responsibility for his behavior. He may attempt to show his sincerity and caring by buying gifts, taking the family on outings, being helpful in the house, or being more attentive. Once she gets an understanding of what the cycle of violence is then she might look at her relationship as an abusive relationship and might seek help.
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Wed, 06 Jun 2012 21:56:08 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/06/june-06th-2012.html
My girlfriend has been accusing me of cheating for about a year now. Yea, I talk to a couple girls but its nothing like that and they all know about her and I have a girl best friend. I try to talk to her about it but she never listens. What do I do?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

To try to take a step in her shoes and see things from her perspective to try to get a better understanding of why she's doing the things that she is doing and also think about if she was doing the same things that you are doing, how would you feel? One thing to keep in mind is that when you’re in a committed relationship with someone, you have certain feelings for them that you don't have for anybody else, so sometime jealously plays a huge role in relationships. Another suggestion is to make her feel like she’s not in competition with any of those other girls and that you only love her and only want to be with her.
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:27:09 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/06/june-04th-2012.htmlI’m trying to graduate high school and go to college but my girlfriend doesn’t support me.  I’m trying to stay legit but people in the streets keep pressuring me to do wrong.  I’m trying to stay away from drugs but my girlfriend is always pressuring me to smoke with her. How do I tell them that I don’t want to do any of these things without looking like a punk?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

If you feel people are not very supportive of you, one suggestion is to communicate with them about the way you feel and how you wish they were more supportive of your dreams and goals. It’s very easy to get caught up in something that everyone else is doing because they make it seem so easy and worthwhile, when really there are more positive things that can be done. One thing to keep in mind is, people shouldn't judge you about being honest about the way you feel.
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Wed, 30 May 2012 20:59:19 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/05/may-30th-2012.htmlMy girlfriend has been accusing me of cheating for about a year now. Yea, I talk to a couple girls but its nothing like that and they all know about her and I have a girl best friend. I try to talk to her about it but she never listens. What do I do?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

To try to take a step in her shoes and see things from her perspective to try to get a better understanding of why she's doing the things that she is doing and also think about if she was doing the same things that you are doing, how would you feel? One thing to keep in mind is that when you’re in a committed relationship with someone, you have certain feelings for them that you don't have for anybody else, so jealously plays a huge factor in relationships. Another suggestion is to make her feel like she’s not in competition with any of those other girls and that you only love her and only want to be with her. 
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Thu, 24 May 2012 23:51:27 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/05/mydrama-question-of-the-week17.htmlMy boyfriend has been with a lot of girls in his past and I am still a virgin and plan on losing my virginity to him. How do I ask him to get tested without offending him?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

One suggestions is to communicate with your partner about the seriousness of STDs and STIs and how  you just want to be safe. Another suggestion is to explain that there are several clinics that will do the testing for free and that it’s very confidential. Another suggestion is Tell him you’re going to go get tested and suggest him to come with you. Communicate with him and be honest about the way you feel and he would respect your decision.
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Thu, 03 May 2012 02:26:36 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/05/mydrama-question-of-the-week16.htmlDo condoms really protect against all STIs?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

Besides abstinence, latex and polyurethane condoms are the best way to protect against STIs and pregnancy.  However, some STI’s are spread through skin to skin contact and can still be transmitted even with a condom; condoms greatly reduce the risk of STI transmission!!
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Thu, 03 May 2012 02:25:11 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/05/mydrama-question-of-the-week15.htmlCan you ever run out of semen or sperm?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

It is pretty unlikely. Boys begin producing sperm during puberty and have the ability to produce sperm their entire lives. There are some things that may lower a man’s sperm count, such as drugs, alcohol and aging. There are also medical conditions or procedures that may stop the ability to produce sperm.
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<![CDATA[MyDrama Question of the Week]]>Thu, 03 May 2012 02:23:41 GMThttp://www.bom411.com/2/post/2012/05/mydrama-question-of-the-week14.htmlCan you get HIV or STIs from having oral sex?

The BOM Ambassadors Say...

You can get HIV and some other STIs from unprotected oral sex. Remember there is a risk of transmitting HIV and other STIs any time there is an exchange of fluids. Use a polyurethane or latex condom, or a dental dam every time you have vaginal, anal or oral sex!
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