By: Hector
In order for some couples to feel like they are a true couple they need intimacy to keep them together. Intimacy gives that spark, the spark of a relationship that most couples enjoy throughout the beginning of their quest together. Intimacy can either make or break a couple, but before intimacy other factors should be met, such as trust and communication.
In order for some couples to feel like they are a true couple they need intimacy to keep them together. Intimacy gives that spark, the spark of a relationship that most couples enjoy throughout the beginning of their quest together. Intimacy can either make or break a couple, but before intimacy other factors should be met, such as trust and communication.
If communication and trust are broken or not commonly met, you can almost forget about intimacy going on in a relationship. The hugging, kissing, sex, and being with each other will disappear without trust, and you can welcome anger, suspicion, and awkwardness to your relationship.
The majority of the couples I have known have started their relationships feeling great and having plenty of intimacy towards each other, but as time goes by this intimacy that they share begins to fade away or increase in a negative way. I have a friend who is in a predicament with her boyfriend. My friend often feels obligated towards her boyfriend’s needs, rather than her own. I feel bad for my friend because I know she doesn't like the guy, but she self - consciously wants to like him. My friend is caught in a web and its so hard for her to get out. They still share intimacy together, but it's unhealthy because there is no communication or trust between the two as a couple. They've been going out for three years, she tells me that she was satisfied with him at first, and she could hug and kiss him all she wants and not limit her intimacy level. They were just happy and there was plenty of communication and trust between the two. As time passed by this trust and communication worsened, which led to intimacy “patching” up all the issues that they have. Meaning that they don't clean their relationship’s mess face to face, but they sweep it under the “rug”. The type of intimacy that they use to “patch” up things is just a cover up for happiness that they can not get together.
I think that intimacy can be misleading for some couples. What I mean by misleading is that one person in the relationship may want to talk things out, and the other partner may also want to talk things out, but they avoid talking and skip to being intimate with each other. Intimacy includes a range from kissing to sex, and everything in between, and that can be the key to how relationships function when they are in doubt. Instead of communication, “patching” up a relationship can become unhealthy. If “patching up” occurs, maybe the relationship is not meant to be, and one partner will eventually cling on to the pattern. The pattern is consistent intimacy going on in a relationships to fix problems that can be addressed verbally. True intimacy in a couple comes after the trust and communication are established not after. Couples often do not have patience to re - build trust and communication skills. Couples often skip to intimacy to make things better, but healthy intimacy comes from each partner being happy within themselves and their partners.
The majority of the couples I have known have started their relationships feeling great and having plenty of intimacy towards each other, but as time goes by this intimacy that they share begins to fade away or increase in a negative way. I have a friend who is in a predicament with her boyfriend. My friend often feels obligated towards her boyfriend’s needs, rather than her own. I feel bad for my friend because I know she doesn't like the guy, but she self - consciously wants to like him. My friend is caught in a web and its so hard for her to get out. They still share intimacy together, but it's unhealthy because there is no communication or trust between the two as a couple. They've been going out for three years, she tells me that she was satisfied with him at first, and she could hug and kiss him all she wants and not limit her intimacy level. They were just happy and there was plenty of communication and trust between the two. As time passed by this trust and communication worsened, which led to intimacy “patching” up all the issues that they have. Meaning that they don't clean their relationship’s mess face to face, but they sweep it under the “rug”. The type of intimacy that they use to “patch” up things is just a cover up for happiness that they can not get together.
I think that intimacy can be misleading for some couples. What I mean by misleading is that one person in the relationship may want to talk things out, and the other partner may also want to talk things out, but they avoid talking and skip to being intimate with each other. Intimacy includes a range from kissing to sex, and everything in between, and that can be the key to how relationships function when they are in doubt. Instead of communication, “patching” up a relationship can become unhealthy. If “patching up” occurs, maybe the relationship is not meant to be, and one partner will eventually cling on to the pattern. The pattern is consistent intimacy going on in a relationships to fix problems that can be addressed verbally. True intimacy in a couple comes after the trust and communication are established not after. Couples often do not have patience to re - build trust and communication skills. Couples often skip to intimacy to make things better, but healthy intimacy comes from each partner being happy within themselves and their partners.
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